A gym for relational intelligence · Milan and online
In Milan we meet at mare culturale urbano, Cascina Torrette.
Saturday 28 November · 09:00–17:00 mare culturale urbano - Cascina Torrette
Sunday 27 December · 20:45–22:45
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Relazioni Autentiche is a gym for relational intelligence. You train at our evenings, in workshops and online, in small groups, with games and guided conversations. No lectures: you try, get it wrong, try again. There are five skills: presence, listening, self-expression, curiosity and co-creation.
To make relational intelligence something you train, like your body. The quality of our relationships decides much of the quality of our lives, and nobody teaches it at school.
Relationships don’t get better on their own with time. They get better when you practise. And it’s worth it: studies that follow people for decades say so.
Since 1938
Close relationships predict a long and happy life better than social class, IQ or genes.
Harvard Study of Adult Development · Waldinger & Schulz, 2023
+50%
higher odds of survival, over the period observed, for people with strong social ties. 148 studies, more than 300,000 people.
Holt-Lunstad, Smith & Layton, PLOS Medicine, 2010
A few minutes
Short conversations, even with people you barely know, are enough to lift your mood and your sense of belonging that day.
Sandstrom & Dunn, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 2014
In their own words, translated from Italian. Since 2020 we have asked for feedback at the end of every session: we have collected 540.
During the session I felt welcomed and encouraged to explore a part of me I find hard to make room for. The depth of the practice came with simplicity and playfulness, which let me approach authenticity gradually and with pleasure.
It’s like a small safe harbour where you know you can talk with people who communicate with the same care that we, who want authentic relationships, would like to find in the world.
It took me out of my comfort zone, to open up to people I don’t know and share personal things too.
I’m taking home the quality of listening I felt in the others, and I’ll try to “perform” less in my relationships, focusing more on the other person and the present moment than on my thoughts and fear of being judged.
This space let me share thoughts, memories and emotions without fear of being judged. I felt I had permission to be myself, no filters.
Every time I finish one of these sessions, I don’t feel like the same person who started it.
Before
Almost everyone arrives like that, with a question in mind and not knowing a soul.
During
90 minutes in a small group: a few games, then conversations in pairs and in a circle. Every exercise is an invitation, and you choose how far to go.
After
A question, a way of listening, a sentence that opens things up. To try tomorrow with your partner, your family, at work.
They run the evenings and the course together.
Facilitator and coach
ICF-certified coach. He learned Authentic Relating with Authentic Revolution and ART International, and has been running evenings in Milan and online since 2019.
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Sociologist and facilitator
Sociologist and counsellor. She works on emotional and relational intelligence with individuals, groups and organisations.
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Self-assessment
Twenty statements, four minutes. See where you are today on the five skills we train at our evenings, find your profile and which skill to start from. No account needed.
Most of our evenings in Milan are in Italian. Every event says which language it is held in, on its card and on its page. If you’d like an evening in English, write to us: when enough people ask, we plan one.
Yes, almost everyone does. That’s the beauty of it. Bring someone if you prefer.
No, it’s training in relational skills. If you’re going through a hard time, it’s better to talk to a psychologist: we say so plainly.
Your first evening is free. After that, 20 € per evening. The one-day workshop costs 130 €.
No. “I’ll pass tonight” is an answer too, and we respect it. Every exercise is an invitation.
The practice goes on between one evening and the next. The WhatsApp group brings questions, invitations and small challenges; the newsletter and Instagram tell you when there’s a new date. Most of it is in Italian.
An email now and then, with reflections, exercises and upcoming dates. In Italian. No spam, one click to unsubscribe.
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People who have come at least once keep practising here between sessions: questions, invitations, small challenges.
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